During this COVID-19 pandemic many of us around the world have lost loved ones and have been unable to visit them in hospitals or attend memorial services for those we have lost. This compounds the difficulties of grieving. God knows grief and He provides a community of friends and family to support each other even […]
Want to get even?
For a lot of my life when I was wronged by someone I wanted to get even. I usually did. It didn’t make me any happier or more at peace. I finally realized that the other person was just as imperfect as me and I began to learn to just let it go. It’s still […]
Do I matter?
I believe that God created me. He selected my parents to bring me into the world but I am His creation. In this enormous world sometimes we feel so insignificant. But God took nine months to create is in our mother’s womb. That’s no trivial amount of time. At least to us – to God […]
What does God see in us?
Like me I’m sure you have, at times, felt like you don’t matter. You don’t measure up to the world. That makes us insecure. Like we don’t have what it takes to be at the top. Of course, God sees what we don’t see. Moses felt completely inadequate for what God was asking him to […]
Need a door to open?
I’ve come to many detour signs in my life – and I’m not talking about when I’m driving. I find myself saying “Somehow that’s not the way I pictured it happening.” Usually it has taken awhile but I discovered that the detour saved me from encountering more pain in my relationships and my career. When […]
Parenting Adult Children
My wife, Diane (who, by the way, is my Editor), and I are the parents of adult children…not always an easy role – because you want to jump in there when you think your kids are making a mistake or you think you have a better way to do things. Jim Burns, who authored a […]
Helper or hinderer?
There have been many times I’ve tried to help a friend with a problem – some practical ones, others relational. It hasn’t always gone well. It’s usually because that person had not asked for my help and maybe didn’t even want the situation to be changed yet. The other person has to want to be […]
Kids do get older
As parents of adult children we have learned (sometimes the hard way!) that we need to change faster than our kids do: We move from daily involvement in giving direction and advice to only giving advice when asked. Somewhere in between are the teenage years and the kid’s normal frustrations with life that isn’t coming […]
Setting boundaries
I have a habit of saying “yes” too much, I think. I’m afraid of letting others down. So what I’m trying to do now in my life is to open doors for others to help and serve. But most of all I need to set boundaries for myself. That emotion that rises up when you […]
How do we love?
Most of us know people who have gotten married to “find” love – or they have surprised their husband with a pregnancy hoping that will solidify love. The only one who can show us how to love is God. He first loved us. Sometimes that’s really hard when we end up with parents who made […]
