As parents of adult children we have learned (sometimes the hard way!) that we need to change faster than our kids do:

1. We move from daily involvement in giving direction and advice to only giving advice when asked. Somewhere in between are the teenage years and the kid’s normal frustrations with life that isn’t coming out the way they had hoped. So we need to gradually lessen our control.
2. There is also a transition from our kid’s dependency to where we just need to be caring parents and not enabling our children to continue to be dependent upon us.
3. Raising kids is grueling work….and usually thankless. So it is important to stay strong physically, emotionally and spiritually. We need all the strength we can get!
4. Always keep the relationships with our kids loving and fun – no matter what. Eventually you will wear them out!