…..as the song went. But we can’t seem to stop resisting feelings, as Dallas Willard said. Rather than replacing or changing them, we would just rather not resist them. Let them happen. We want what we want when we want it. The truth is, we don’t need to fulfill feelings. We humans have the power […]
What have we learned?
COVID has changed the world in many ways. We’ve learned that leaders can make us unnecessarily fearful. We can’t believe everything people tell us. Everyone has different sources to verify their biases. We are coming out of it with mixed emotions….happy to see things beginning to open up a little. Sad for all the relationships […]
Why we procrastinate
It’s usually because we are content with the way things are now. We’re comfortable – so why change? When things turn ugly we tend to make decisions more quickly. The first step toward changing is to change what we think about. The thoughts that enter our mind need to be reconciled with what we know […]
Learning experiences
This term doesn’t always conjure up pleasant thoughts. Usually we only learn from tough times (I don’t want to do that ever again!) We can also learn from good times….because it builds trust that our hopes will be fulfilled. Along that road we encounter people who help, not hinder. It’s our stubbornness to want to […]
Our face is just the tip of the iceberg
We all put up a good front. All is good. We want everyone to think we have it under control. Underneath, where the bulk of the iceberg is we are a jumble of bad memories, guilt over past mistakes, fear of our enemies and fear of failure. We harbor anger leading to bitterness and, ultimately, […]
Why yield power to anyone?
Our enemies have power over us. How do we let that happen. We let the fact that we cannot be friends overwhelm us. So they are in our heads every day. We need to let go of that. Nobody can please everyone. We shouldn’t concern ourselves about pleasing everyone. Some people are just evil and […]
Patience, patient!
Many of us are in various stages of healing from past hurts. Progress is this area takes time. An orange tree won’t reach its peak of production until at least twelve years. We’re probably best to focus on what is immediately in front of us and not move too fast into the unknown. C. S. […]
Censored?
One of the biggest freedoms we have is what we allow our mind to dwell upon. The next would be to be able to express that – and, to a large degree, that is being taken away from us. Many nations are becoming authoritarian in limiting opinion being publicized to only their template, their talking […]
AM I part of the problem – or part of the solution?
I’m often guilty of placing blame when something goes wrong. Usually the problem can be traced back to anyone involved. This is because when we saw the obstacles appearing in front of us we didn’t all resolve to find a solution rather than lay blame. This is true, not only with us ordinary people, but […]
Worried about what others think?
We’re all guilty of that to some extent because most of us are somewhat insecure. A secure person would care what others think. How do we become more secure? We need to stop living in valleys – fear, conflicts and grief – and keep moving toward the hills. The view from the top will build […]
