Most everyone has heard Aretha Franklin’s song asking for “a little respect.” But is respect automatic? Do we have to earn it? I think so. Respect can be damaged during times of conflict – like we’re having now in our republic. How does conflict begin? It usually begins when our needs aren’t being met. We feel like we don’t have the power to regain the position we once held. Our basic need of acceptance is not being met. We can’t just isolate ourselves in such a situation. Others around us may feel exactly the same way as we do. We feel offended. Well, what about them? We need to open up our empathy toward others feelings. Stop and think before we speak. Most importantly, never criticize a person in front of others. If we have a problem with someone we need to confront them privately. Assume that what they did was just a mistake and expect the best in the other to once again come forward.