When we stop trying to get our own way we are released from the pressures brought on by anger or bitterness. It means we stop being totally self-centered. We need to try to understand God’s will and try our best to follow it but we need one more thing – we need to let go of the outcomes and trust that, under God, “all things work together for good to those who love Him and are called according to His purpose.” This will require the discipline of humility.